The Elephant in the Room

Lone elephant in the forest of West Africa

Hello Beauties,

It's 16 days into 2019 and I want to ask you "Girl, how you doing"?

And don't give me the regular answers like "Oh, I'm fine", "I'm blessed and Highly favored", "Girl, the Lord has been good to me". I seriously want to know how do you really feel.

This same question was asked to a group of us during a Transformation Yoga Class that I was honored to attend last Sunday. It was amazing how...when the question was asked...that it literally brought us to tears. However, let me paint the scene for you.

The first hour of this class was actually a regular yoga class. It was a very interesting experience for me, because this was my first time doing yoga. I went in thinking that it would be an easy class. Do some stretches, get in a few poses, Namaste a few times and it would be over, right? Wrong....BAAAABBBBYYYY, after that class I was rethinking my whole entire life. I was using parts of my body I forgot I had. I couldn't even do that goddess pose cause my knees was like "NO MA'AM, I WILL MAKE YOU SHAME". I know, I know...it's time to get in shape. Don't judge me.

The next hour was when we met Mrs. Symply L (look her up on Facebook). She is a motivational speaker and life coach and the first thing she wanted to address is the elephant in the room, Our Face.

You know The Face...it's the one that we put on when we don't want other people to know that we are not ok.

Them: "Girl, hey, how you doing?"

You: "Girl, I am fine."

But on the inside you are broken and crying for help.

It's the face that you show others, to make them think that you got your "ish" together when in reality, your trying to get to your secret place so you can cry your eyes out, because just getting out of bed is becoming to much for you to bare.

It's the face we walk into work with that has that smile on it, when you tell your co-workers "Good Morning" as you walk to your desk, because you don't want them to know how many times you thought about taking yourself out before Monday morning traffic.

I knew that face all to well. The better part of 2018, I carried it in my back pocket everyday and I knew when to put it on. I dressed that face up in make up, covered it up with the bangs from my wigs. Girl look....I knew how to make it do, what it do.

Symply L went around the room and asked some of us how we were doing? Everybody, she asked immediately broke down in a bed of tears. It made me feel....SAD. I just looked across that room and was like...What are we doing to ourselves? Why are so many of us out here pretending to be happy, when deep down inside we are full of broken pieces? Why are we not addressing these elephants that are causing us to walk around unhealed?

Why are we not being our true authentic self? WHY?

I could feel everyone's pain because we all had the same pain, just experiencing it in different ways.

During the end of our session, She gave all of us a small elephant. That elephant is to serve as a reminder to address the elephants that are holding us up in life. Elephants that are making us ignore ourselves so that the people around us can be comfortable. The Elephants that don't allow us to put ourselves first or be true to ourselves.

What elephants do you need to address in your life? I believe it is time to we stop ignoring the elephant in the room and deal with him head on. How do you plan to deal with yours? Leave a comment and let me know. I got your back and we can do this together.

Peace and Blessings

The InspireHER